Explaining to the Non Writer

It’s been some time since I shared one of my more revealing, behind-the-scenes posts. Did you miss em? 😉

So…I’m always working to explain things to my husband. And sometimes, trying to explain things I don’t truly understand myself makes it even more interesting. He mostly wants to know why everything takes so long and honestly, I don’t have answers for that one. I’ve explained how busy people in publishing are, but he always counters with how busy people in all businesses are.  I talk about having to rework contracts, etc, but that doesn’t work either because he used to be in contracts and reworked a LOT of them.

So, I’d kind of put a stop to the never-ending, no-answers conversations. Really, as someone who likes being in control, having so much of this outside my control is already difficult enough without having to re-explain why I continue to try.  But then, something else came up and I found myself in this conversation.

Hubs “So, if they go for the book, how long until it’s published.”

Me “Depends on how long it takes for the rewrites and–”

Hubs breaks in “Rewrites? But you already did rewrites for another publisher–wouldn’t that cover it?”

Me “Oh no. Each editor is going to have a different idea for the book so no matter where it ends up, there will be rewrites again.”

Hubs “Then it’s published.”

Me “No, not even then. I’ll get the book back for different sets of edits–”

Hubs breaks in “I think I want to remain ignorant.”

Poor dude.

So, as we writers suffer through the fires of waiting torment… it’s good to remember that our loved ones are as well and it’s possible they’re so far removed from the process, they don’t know why. My husband doesn’t read blogs or get on Twitter. He isn’t in email loops with other authors.  He only sees my part of the process and as a logical, linear thinker, he doesn’t get it. But… he also loves me and knows how much I love the writing. He knows more than anyone else how badly I want to publish books. So, he puts up with a lot.

There should be a national Spouses of Writers day. Only that might not be enough. They really deserve a whole month. 😉


About Rinda Elliott

Writer.I love unusual stories and credit growing up in a family of curious life-lovers who moved all over the country. Books and movies full of fantasy, science fiction and romance kept us amused, especially in some of the stranger places. For years, I tried to separate my darker side with my humorous and romantic one. I published short fiction, but things really started happening when I gave in and mixed it up. When not lost in fiction, I love making wine, collecting music, gaming and spending time with my husband and two children. I’m represented by Miriam Kriss of the Irene Goodman Agency.
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